I woke up– in the middle of the night. And I remember– they were arguing. And then he got violent. And I remember my mother, like, cowering. And at that time, it left such an indelible
mark on me. Seeing a woman that is a professional, educated
professional, that– I couldn’t quite compute that as I got older. She’s smart but yet we’re stuck. When you think about someone as a victim,
they don’t realize there’s this blast radius. You have not only the person that is a victim,
but then you have two children that become victims. It was only– by the time I reached 11 or
12– that my mother started to say… there’s got to be a better way. My mother had this metal box with a combination
hidden somewhere in the closet. And I stumbled upon it by– purely by accident. I said, “Well, what’s this gray box?” And I– I’ll never forget it. She said, “Freedom.” And what I didn’t really recognize at the
time was that she was putting money in that box so that she could get an apartment on
her own and get the heck out. She took two kids and we left. My mother– who has a– had a wonderful singing
voice started singing again. It’s almost like– releasing– a bird (LAUGH)
from a cage. And– that is– another memory I have, you
know, that– she could sing again, right? My mother’s path to financial freedom is a very nice parallel to the Allstate Purple
Purse When there’s– domestic abuse, there’s also
financial abuse. We were one of the first to understand that
and create a curriculum– of– financial empowerment– through our financial specialists that help
them– get outta those– unhealthy relationships and get them to understand– financial freedom. We now also are doing things around– youth
empowerment. But it’s also about prevention. And we’ve just started this curriculum on
healthy relationships. My mom was– Carmen Yulele Paris
I think her legacy is the fact that– she helped others– as a nurse. I mean, that was her calling is to helping
others. To me, the Purple Purse is the opportunity
to break free.